7 Words Relationship Questionnaire Q21R
Personal Study Material
Look at the lowest score/s you have recorded above, and then study the text below. When we address the issues shown then we will find it helps to smooth the way towards more fulfilling partnership
In the context of relationship are you weak on saying No?
It’s foolish and immature to act as though two people are one. A relationship requires there to be two people, each with their own agenda, their own way of being, ideas, preferences and personal ambitions. Therefore boundaries must be put in place to establish such individuality – which means the operation of personal choice backed up by true integrity. We will never be respected unless we have the strength to claim our own space and resist imposition of a bullying or insensitive partner. It’s best to be honest about what you think and feel because all deception in the long run creates a worse problem than it solves.
In the context of relationship are you weak on saying Hello?
Friendship keeps a relationship alive in the long term. Of course sex and babies are tingly featured at some point – but the beginning and end are more realistically based upon enjoyment of each other’s’ company. So instead of focusing on sexual attraction and financial comforts, it may be better to think about shared interests, activities and entertainment. Also, we remember that friendship needs nurture and maintenance to keep it alive and sparkling.
In the context of relationship are you weak on saying Thanks?
Most relationships are built on love – so what is love to you? Is it a feeling or a set of behaviours or both? Do you really care for your partner – does it touch your feelings with compassion or irritation when they act out in a needy way? Do you do anything to make sure the love stays strong? Appreciation is probably the key – both feeling it consciously and showing it tangibly. Words matter, but tone matters more. Gifts help, but sensitive touch is the real magic!
In the context of relationship are you weak on saying Goodbye?
We have to say Goodbye to our image of what yesterday was – or we might have to say Goodbye to each other. The first kiss, the first night…how wonderful! But never to be repeated. That’s life. We have to move on because life itself is dynamism. We must move on together or we will certainly drift apart in one way or another. Conflicts arise, especially around key issues such as fidelity, kids and money – and these are indications that there are two agendas which remain imperfectly reconciled. The secret to resolving disagreements? Big ears and an open heart!
In the context of relationship are you weak on saying Please?
Relationship is the merging together of two independent stands of intention. He wants kids, she wants a successful career; he needs a cosy home, she needs recognition…or whatever it may be. Sharing each other’s vision of the future is very energising and acts as a binding force larger than the problems of conflict. The obvious shared project is the raising of children, yet other types of projects are also worth considering carefully, especially when there are no kids around, since it is of central importance to share a creative project – and a hobby or a business does the job rather well.
In the context of relationship are you weak on saying Sorry?
Astrologers may observe that the chart’s Descendant represents not only one-to-one partnerships but also our shadow nature…that which we cannot see, and invariably deny. Relationships are not meant to be lived ‘happily ever after’, that’s fairy story nonsense. They are what triggers us most easily and deeply into our darker side. This is an entirely necessary process if we are to look at and begin to resolve our imperfection of personality and character. We are forced by our partner to look at ourselves from their perspective – and, even though they may also see our hidden gifts and qualities, they will put the finger, rather painfully, upon the bits of our personality that need attention. Best to remember this before blaming them for our own issues!
In the context of relationship are you weak on saying Yes?
Some of us get caught up and lost in all the problems and complexities of having to take into account another, perhaps several others counting the kids, whenever we make a decision in life. It can rob us of joy. From time to time we may want to take stock and ask ourselves – do I actually enjoy this relationship? Does it add to my freedom or deprive me of it? Does it bring me joy? Of course certain periods can be heavy and serious, but if there’s no end in sight to the suffering, no light at the end of the tunnel, no hope, then it’s time – in fact urgent – that something has to change. It is not healthy to live indefinitely in a state of joylessness.