7 Words Study: Hello
Happily Exploring Life’s Limitless Options
Appetite for New Things and Ideas
Bridge from NO to THANKS
Life is a Mirror
Putting it all Out There
Keywords for Hello
As the body requires food, so the psyche seeks the nourishment that is provided by attention—and the results of under-nourishment are profound. Attention is the real juice. There is a lot to gain from becoming deeply connected with another; the richness of life flows more powerfully as the mutuality of involvement sparks into an awakening of that which was dormant. We take on some of the qualities of the people that we give our attention to and whom we mix with, and unconsciously we become like them in certain ways. Even when our attention is concentrated on a subject rather than a person, well-being is enhanced.
The Hello archetype applies to anything new: new concepts, new experiences and new attitudes—so this suggests a general openness to life, a welcoming of the unknown with lively interest and willingness to make contact and absorb new ideas. Curiosity is a desire to learn, and it is through curiosity that the human race has expanded its awareness to all aspects of life in the material universe and all aspects of life in the subtle realms. It is the mother of invention easily as much as necessity.
As we expand the horizons of our social life, we receive gifts, learn to express talents and realize aptitudes. Each newly discovered aspect of the external world has equivalence inwardly so we sense an inner development of our potential, an arising of possibility, the stimulation of imagination—and we feel the urge to expand further as our hopes and dreams take on a more substantial dimension: they acquire more substance.
What do we get when we say Hello? We get pulled and pushed, required to, obliged by, bullied, interrupted, seduced, dominated, bothered, insulted and generally disrespected by insensitive, uncaring, selfish people. So what is so valuable that we pay such a price? Is it the fun, the wit, the playfulness, the ever-flowing river of sparkling ephemeral pleasure-joy-sensation-aliveness? Can it really be only these distractions for the mind? No. There is another compelling reason: the answers we seek to major life questions are found only by engaging with others; solutions to all questions are found only when we expand our readiness to embrace a new person or a new idea. This will always entail exchange.
When the Hello archetype is expressed at the most subtle of levels, we are in essence saying Hello to God: communion. It’s a mutual process, God/Goddess is saying Hello to us too, and when this happens, the contours of our more habitual world shift so that we find ourselves subject to different laws. Communing with nature allows us direct access to the self-evident reality of material existence: we see metaphors in the lives and cycles in nature that give us an intuitive grasp of the underlying patterns by which we are governed. There’s no compromise, no negotiation, no respite from the hard truth of corporeal life and yet, despite the violence and harshness, its beauty awes us.
The skills of Hello develop influence. Often called social skills, they help us to find our place easily within our normal milieu, make friends and contacts, and initiate exchanges by which we enable ourselves to function effectively. Our primary concern is with attention. This is an energy that flows between people, and can touch each person at a very deep level. It has not only strength but qualities too; it can be positive or negative according to the intention of the giver and the perception of the receiver.
Without understanding the currents of attention flowing within an exchange, then you do not understand the exchange. When you do, then you can set the course of unfolding towards a required outcome. Qualities of attention can be cautious awareness, sexual attraction, deference, curiosity, and so on, including the very high form of it – as admiration.
Admiration is a special kind of attention — an energetic flow from one to another — and a person who is admired and receives a lot of attention can learn how to harvest this special form of life force so that it can be stored for later use. It is stored in the form of prestige, which basically is crystallised attention. Thus do famous people become prestigious and wield extraordinary influence. Their influence is expressed in their ability to command others’ attention at will, and this leads to various advantages and favours.
Unable to give sincere profound attention, antisocial, small-minded, bigoted, poor sense of how to interact unselfishly, lack of depth in comprehension.
This is someone whose circle of life is small and repetitive like a hamster on its wheel, a dull, undistinguished personality that lacks real intelligence or wit. The mind is lacklustre, opinions are those shared by millions, inherited unconsciously from TV soap operas and potted, one-sided news summaries. They may not so much be lonely as caught up in one or two fixed relationships usually within the family setting where conversations are simply repetitions of previous ones with little or no variations from the approved script and largely indistinguishable from those of yesterday or even the next door neighbour’s.
In some cases many ideas and a lot of social contact are often forced upon a child too early and there arises a neurotic condition as a result. It's probably so commonplace that it is not always perceived as neurotic, yet we have to consider whether certain aspects of a strong Hello nature are really indicative of a healthy personality.
The child, forced by circumstances to relate to strong-minded, insensitive adults will have to develop a strategy in order to hold on to an inner sense of identity. That strategy could mean shying away from involvement or relating on a surface level, intuitively saying and doing whatever brings smiles and cooing noises from these strangers. Later in life the child outgrows the protective inclination to be gauche, reclusive and timid in company, and becomes the reverse: a butterfly with little depth of conversation, shallow, fickle and insincere, possibly nosey or a gossip and even given to promiscuity, wanderlust and rampant curiosity in social relationships — an orientation obsessively mental rather than feeling.
The Press and communication media exist in order to offer information, and yet this primary purpose — to inform — has been overtaken by other agendas. These include secrecy and deception and the use of images of violence and sex to entertain. It also includes use for propaganda purposes, to promote a given attitude deceitfully. Much of what is shameful that is carried out in public service would not be done if it were public knowledge.
Hello suggests openness, an exchange of views, education and giving attention to current affairs. Even the majority of newspaper readers — those, whose minds are set upon given attitudes, who are fixed of belief and prejudiced against new ideas — are part of the problem. They can become part of the solution by challenging the purveyors of false information.