7 Words Study: Please

Plan Life Endlessly Anticipating Special Experiences

Moving Forward

How come we keep repeating the same process? We often just travel around again to where we have already decided to leave — same relationship issues, same work problems, same family arguments — we travel in circles. By this process of trial and error (No, Hello, Thanks, Goodbye, No…) we can come to a vague inner sense that ‘There must be more to life than this.’ Perhaps even: ‘I’ve had money, sex, position and the good life and I’m still dissatisfied, actually I’m depressed’. ​

New Dimension

Spirals are much more the symbol of what is needed in a healthy life. They are circles extended into another dimension, retaining the essential cyclical nature of life whilst adding the sense of progression towards a higher goal. Please has the effect of adding this dimension, which opens doors to new horizons of possibility. We have to learn — and really understand — that we don’t need to do something today the same way we did it yesterday.

Taking the Initiative

We are the ones taking the initiative with Please, we act out of our own impulses and we act vigorously upon another, so Please is associated with assertiveness and often indicates implied authority. In saying this word we have clear intention to shift another’s position in order to facilitate the realisation of our desired outcome. As a consequence of repeatedly doing so, our personal power increases. We become a constant force that bends reality to our goals, shapes understandings towards our beliefs and draws us closer towards the realisation of our vision. However we can only access the truly extraordinary power of Please by going through a process of inner alignment.

The tremendous personal authority that grows must be matched by the corresponding degree of personal responsibility. If, by our atmosphere alone, we bend the conditions of reality to our will, then we have to accept responsibility for all the implications of this — even those unseen. It behoves us to behave with more grace and deliberate sensitivity since, without the inner condition of modesty, the word Please is potentially very forceful.

Vision and Supplication

There are two conditions needed for Please — a clear vision and an attitude of supplication. Concentration and cooperation works. Arjuna — the greatest of archers — was asked to describe the bird at which he was aiming: ‘I cannot!’ Why not? ‘I can only see its eye!’ That’s concentration. We need to know exactly what we want if we are to achieve our goal, and it adds considerably to our chances if the goal is specific yet flexible, well defined and stated positively, and enhanced by the anticipation of celebrating success.

Virgin Canvas

Although the past seems to be written in terms unimpeachable, the future is certainly not. It’s a virgin canvas, and we stand at the easel, brush in hand. To add a new facet to life begins by imagining it, since if we never have a dream then we can hardly expect to have a dream come alive. Asking ourselves the question ‘what if …’ stimulates imagination. ‘What if I had enough money? What if I studied and earned a qualification? What if I changed my image? What if I spoke up? What if she likes me too?’ By stimulating imagination we awaken an inner faculty that energises and empowers us to act, to seek solutions and opportunities and to look for something more in keeping with our heart’s desire.

What if...

This inner faculty is much more substantial than we might think — it is not just fantasy, a day-dreamy kind of pleasant way to waste a few spare minutes. The act of envisioning is a specific way of focusing that sidesteps objections, and therefore dissolves the negativity of pessimism.  ‘What if’ is a clever device. With it, we can suspend our disbelief and so unlock the powerful tools readily available in the psyche, whose function is to create futures for our satisfaction. ‘What if’ temporarily puts aside the heavyweight saturnine burden of being realistic, which at this stage is inappropriate.

Why? Past and Future meanings

Of course we can’t be specific about our intention until we have gone through a process of enquiry by which we discover the whys and hows of what we intend. ‘Why?’ is a question that can be answered from the perspective of past or future. Let’s be careful to guard against doing something just because we have been used to doing it and it’s ‘what we do’ — that may be answering ‘why?’ from the past. We need to find out what we are trying to achieve in the larger sense of whether this achievement will support our vision. Then and only then do we consider how to go forward with it. It is a confusion to construct intention primarily out of expediency, because then we would get what is easy, not what we really desire.

Harnessing of Desire

Desire is a healthy force of motivation that guides and energises us towards a realm of experience that brings joy and vitality to uplift the soul. The desire for sexual union and the desire for union with God are both aspects of desire. To desire is a full-on, no-holds-barred, naked passion of such intensity that an avalanche of life force swirls around and around ready to be called to service. It is dangerous, exciting, beyond morality and reason — a madness that can overwhelm and destroy. No wonder people are shy of it — and yet it is life. To harness it is our life task and our life joy. The harnessing can be learned, and needs to be learned; otherwise the passion will cause destruction or be dissipated and become ineffectual. In order to guide desire towards a particular result, we need to learn how and why to concentrate the mind.

Keywords for Please

Vision
Only too often it is we who are the effect of someone else’s cause—in other words we are serving someone’s ambition rather than our own vision. This needs to end if we are to align with soul, because the soul—though it may well be pleased to serve another’s vision—will never choose to be subservient to the pursuit of the ego-ambitions of another. To survive there are certain requirements that are absolute and not negotiable and it is necessary, if we are to build a robust vision, to do so upon the foundations of these requirements. The fluffy vision, pink and pretty, is the soft and comforting dream that dream-sellers entertain us with. A realizable vision is the stuff of the hero/ine: those who are few in number and aspire to establish values and act out of principle to realize their own uniqueness of spirit.

​Intention
​It’s not enough to have a vision; there needs also to be the will to make it happen. We are tested: ‘Is what we want worth the effort?’ Or perhaps putting it differently: ‘Do we really want this or is it just a wish?’ Wishing is quite different from wanting; it is rather fanciful and carries no expectation of achievement, in fact it is often specifically identified with the impossible ‘I wish money grew on trees’, whereas wanting aligns with intention and expectation of achievement.

​Cooperation
Nothing can be done alone, we need help. So who will help us? Suppliers of goods, services, advice and permissions—these are all real people, each with their own vision and intentions, as are staff, co-workers, friends, families and strangers. Our intention has to find a way to integrate with theirs if we are to prove successful in our endeavours. In the case when a number of people are all aligned in single focus upon a common aim, then much is possible.Cooperation is working together: to have it requires that each party is pulling towards the same end. Without this sense of a shared communal purpose, it is better to resist inappropriate involvements and maintain independence until the possibility comes along for suitable co-working. Without it, we are condemned to exist as small and usually insignificant particles instead of enjoying being part of a larger richer experience.

​Prayer 
In sacred use ‘Please’ becomes ‘Please God’ or prayer. Prayer is 'please with a sacred atmosphere'. Its purpose is to align our single-minded passionate clarity with the will of God. Both meditation and prayer seem to be essential in spiritual development and both are process of the mind. With meditation there is a sense of allowing a relaxed and attentive mind to open up its love of a subject in order to see the way that universal patterns are made knowable. In contrast to meditation, prayer is passionate. Picture and passion produce prayer. An idea willed by an expectant mind becomes an event; this is surely one way to define magic—all magic is applied prayer, all action is prayer, we could call it psycho kinesis. It is thinking with feeling, an idea desired and willed, and the more wholeheartedly and assured is the attitude we adopt, the prompter is the realization. So we can that desire, therefore love, is a necessary component of prayer—the time and the emotion we give to the object of our desire together create our lives.​

Life Lessons

WEAKNESSES

Typical issues
Uninspired life path, lackluster life, weak will, boredom, despondency, lack of true involvement, inadequate support, serving reluctantly, under-achievement.
The gifts of free will and creativity are lost on such types of people, who do not imagine a better future, nor do they take steps to improve the life of others. They have few skills in winning cooperation, and make very poor leaders, seem blinkered and unaware of the rich magnificence of opportunity in any situation. To them, spirituality is more to do with obedience than freedom.

Dysfunctions
A strong please applied without much awareness, amounts to coercion, dominance, enslaving, over-ambition and generally getting what you want without much attempt to reconcile it with what others want.
Please is a real power — it cuts through muddle and confusion; it focuses attention on an object and aligns people to pull together. If a parent represents a clear and constant force of will acting upon a child towards the fulfilment of the parent's objectives then the child is likely to develop an equally strong focus, and the capacity to cajole others to achieve specific objectives. They can be charming, persuasive and inspiring, yet lack the willingness to compromise or defer, although they will cooperate wherever it suits their purposes to join forces with a useful ally. Many politicians and hard-nosed business managers fall into this category.

Global Issues
Acting assertively, without regard to the other person, leads to aggression and human rights violations. There are more slaves today than there have ever been on Earth and, although it is gratifying that the percentage is smaller, individual slaves are not interested in that. Women and children are constantly subject to abuses because they have not sufficient physical strength to defend themselves. Political prisoners are often tortured so that a corrupt regime can strengthen its grip. The world watches as children are forced to work in Dickensian conditions, as so many women are treated as sub-human and as vast populations in poorer countries — slaves and forced workers — serve the tiny minority who abuse them.